I’ve mentioned before that contraceptives are great. They can prevent unwanted pregnancy 99% of the time. I’ve also mentioned that condoms are great, too. Proper use of a condom can prevent pregnancy AND transmission of STDs 97% of the time. But there is only one way to reduce your risk of unwanted pregnancy and STDs by 100% and that is abstinence.
Abstinence simply means not having sex, and it’s very common for people who were sexually active to go through periods of abstinence. In my case, abstinence means not having sexual intercourse until I am married. For others, it means refraining from sexual intercourse until they are in a monogamous, committed relationship. Abstinence can be an ongoing thing, or it can happen at various points in a person’s life.
While I believe that it is crucial for everyone to be informed about their options when it comes to birth control and protection, my personal belief is to practice abstinence. This is for a variety of reasons in addition to the obvious reasons of preventing STDs and pregnancy.
The first is that it is my religious belief. As a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints I have been taught to abstain from sex before marriage. This isn’t unusual for most religions, since sex is seen as something sacred and special.
I also believe in abstinence because of personal reasons. I want to make sure that when I do have sex with someone, it’s for a good reason. Not because I just feel like it or because I feel lonely, but because it means something more than just sexual pleasure. I want it to be emotionally strengthening and healthy. I had a very good friend when I was in high school who I could talk to about anything. We were talking one day about why waiting to have sex can be a positive thing in a world that often influences us to think otherwise. He told me something that stuck with me all of these years. He said, “I think that one of the main reasons why we (as Latter Day Saints) are told to not have premarital sex is because that when you do have sex with someone, it creates an emotional connection that you just can’t handle unless you are married.” Sex is an extremely complicated thing and can sometimes be destructive to a relationship and an individual if it isn’t emotionally and physically healthy.
I found this article from the LDS church website that explains the benefits of abstinence until marriage from a background of counseling and social psychology. The author, Steve Gilliland, does a very effective job of combining logical reasoning and spiritual reasoning in the decision to wait until marriage to have sex.
Abstinence is an incredibly difficult thing, because sex is such a desirable thing. There are many young people who intend on waiting until marriage to have sex or abstaining from sex until they feel ready, but due to a variety of reasons, make the decision to have sex before marriage or before they are ready. There many social barriers that make the decision to remain abstinent so difficult. But, and I really do believe this, if you make the decision to wait to have sex until you are ready, you will be glad you did. Health benefits go beyond STD prevention, there are emotional and social benefits as well.















